Have you ever wondered why God created man and woman as separate beings from each other? Thousands of centuries have been spent with these two forms trying to understand and coexist well with each other. So it might be understandably tempting to think that God could have come up with a less difficult arrangement for being one “human being” rather than two subdivisions.
The obvious difference in the genders is the sexual one,
which provides a specific method for reproduction. But in the Jewish-Christian heritage, animal
life came before human creation, so it seems that human reproduction was simply
patterned after our animal predecessors.
Besides, God is more than smart enough to have come up with a different form
of reproduction without separation if so desired. Especially given that reproduction and birth
occupy such a small portion of our lifetimes.
Once birth occurs, “Mr. Mom” has repeatedly shown that child-raising can
be adequately accomplished by either gender.
So one assumes that there has to be a larger reason than just
reproduction for there being “man and woman” instead of one singular “human.”
When we think about all the things that make up Life and
human existence, the range of component elements is beyond our
comprehension. What can be seen, felt,
experienced, thought, understood and formed is endless. Therefore what constitutes being human is an
endless definition with few boundaries.
If our purpose in life is simply to fully experience and learn what all
of Life truly is, to thereby be able to see and know as God sees and knows,
then this vast breadth of “being” outstrips the capacity of most of us. So God created “gender” to make the task of
“experiencing human” a bit more manageable for us.
God made man and woman separately in order to define
human beings more clearly. So the human essence
could be seen more clearly and thereby better explored. The human is a complex being, with a makeup
that is almost beyond the ability for an individual person to assimilate and
manage. It is potentially too overwhelming
to people, particularly so in primitive human beings.
So specialization was in order. The singular human was separated into the two
more manageable parts of man and woman. Two
parts into which those many human aspects could be reduced into a more workable
number so as to be lived out, explored, experienced, and perfected more
fully. And since many human aspects also
have what appear to be their “opposite” aspect, these seeming contradictions could
exist in the separate “man and woman” forms with reduced internal conflict.
Man and woman exemplify the seeming contradictions found
in our separateness. Yet all aspects
exist in both man and woman. By bringing
these two beings into juxtaposition, they can provide the means by which we discover
all human aspects within our own self. As
our collective humanity matures more and more – physically, mentally,
emotionally, and spiritually – the separation between genders becomes more
blurred. Each gender is able to
understand the other’s aspects even more, in turn allowing each person to grow
within him/herself. It is a growing that
continues until that ultimate time when separation is only in the physical; the
spiritual separation is no longer needed.
The sexual act may be primarily about reproduction of the
species. But it is also the means by
which humans can bridge their separation, understand the essence of each other,
and merge those together even if only in the moment. That physical union must suffice until one
reaches the ultimate spiritual reunion of all human aspects within one’s own
It is in the union of our separateness, the union of that
which we think of as “male” and as “female,” that humanness is formed. The dichotomy of our separateness yields into
a comfortable paradox that makes up part of our full humanness. And it is in becoming fully Human that we also